A Veteran Sex Worker-Turned-Death Doula on Domination, Self-Defense, Sober Sex & Life Lessons from the Dying with Vanessa Carlisle
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For the 271st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes author, sex educator, longtime sex worker, and death doula Vanessa Carlisle.
After 27 years in sex work and a new foray into death work, Vanessa has a fascinating perspective into professional human connection. In this episode, Vanessa reflects on getting into sex work at 19, becoming a professional dominatrix, how sex work shaped their understanding of intimacy, founding Hooker’s Army to teach self-defense to sex workers, and co-writing Awaken Your Sexuality, a guide to reconnecting with sexuality after trauma and addiction. We also talk about sober sex and learning to communicate what you want without relying on substances, plus Vanessa’s unexpected path to becoming a death doula and what working with the dying has taught them about how to live.
For more Vanessa Carlisle:
- Buy Vanessa's book Awaken Your Sexuality
- Subscribe to Vanessa's Substack A Mouthful of Light
- Follow Vanessa on Instagram @vanessacarlisle
- Check out Vanessa's website www.vanessacarlisle.com
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