Episodes

For the 101st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Alexander Cheves — sex writer, sex worker, sex educator, and author of My Love is a Beast: Confessions — for a primer on fisting. In addition to fisting 101 tips, Alex shares his experiences coming out, living with HIV in a post-PrEP world (vs. in the 80s or even ten years ago), becoming a sex worker, becoming a sex writer, and writing his memoir My Love is a Beast: Confessions. We also discuss tips for exploring kin...

For the 100th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Lola Jean, sex educator, headmistress of 7 Days of Domination (for aspiring pro doms/dommes), and world record holder for volume squirting! We discuss Lola's sexual revolutions, her experience working at a dungeon, going independent as a dominatrix and fetish wrestler, tips for exploring kink, how she discovered she could squirt, how she became a two-time world-record-setting squirter, the two different types of squi...

For the 99th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares how the abortion debate has become a truly national issue as its begun popping up at Southern California City Council meetings. This first happened over the summer in San Clemente, and more recently in Temecula. Courtney takes you inside a recent Temecula City Council to show you how it all went down. ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION SHIRT TO HELP SUPPORT OUR "ABORTION IN POST-ROE AMERICA" REPORTING TRIP (use code PRIVATE to save ...

For the 98th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Orna Donath, an Israeli sociologist, author, and feminist activist who wrote the book Regretting Motherhood based on her research. We talk about ambivalence vs. regret, the difference in how the genders are socialized around parenthood, the external pressures women face to become mothers, how she conducted her study, and more. For more Orna Donath: Buy Orna's book Regretting Motherhood: A Study ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION ...

For the 97th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hallie Lieberman, author of Buzz: The Stimulating History of the Sex Toy, to talk us through the highlight reel of sex toy history. Hallie literally has a Ph.D. in sex toys, so she's the perfect guide. We discuss how sex toys were illegal in Texas until 2008 (and scary indicators that sex-related laws are regressing!), the Kinsey Institute, Japanese shunga, Anthony Comstock and his terrible legacy of sexual suppressio...

For the 96th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Jaclyn Friedman, founder and executive director of EducateUS: SIECUS In Action, to talk about sex ed in the U.S. — and why it's vital that we do better. Jaclyn is a long-time feminist activist. She's also the author of Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All and What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety. In this episode, Jaclyn shares her mis...

For the 95th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Zachary Zane, Men's Health Magazine sex advice columnist, Boyslut author (now available for preorder!) & host of the biannual BISLUT sex party for bisexual people and their admirers. Zachary's been dubbed a “Bisexual Mega Influencer” by the NY Daily News. We dive into Zachary's sexual awakening, coming to terms with his bisexuality and coming out, his mission to destigmatize sexuality through his writing, some favorit...

For the 94th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dr. Diana Greene Foster, who's responsible for some fascinating and groundbreaking research on abortion and contraceptives. Dr. Foster is a professor at the University of California-San Fransisco, the director of research at ANSIRH, and the author of The Turnaway Study: Ten Years, a Thousand Women, and the Consequences of Having—Or Being Denied—An Abortion. In this episode, we dive into the Turnaway Study — why she st...

For the 93rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes body paint artist Paul Roustan for a conversation about how he got started, the importance of separating sex from nudity, what his wife and kids think about his work, how he used his body paint art as a launch pad to becoming an NTF creator, what it's like to have groupies in the metaverse, and more. For more Roustan: Check out Roustan's website bodypainter.com Check out Roustan's YouTube channel youtube.com/roust...

For the 92nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes research psychologist, psychotherapist, and media commentator Dr. Frieda Birnbaum, Ph.D., for a primer on toxic relationships, how to avoid them, and how to rewire abusive patterns that might be lurking around from your upbringing. But first, we talk about what it's like to be an older parent because, notably, Dr. Frieda is the oldest woman in America to give birth to twins at age 60! With her unique perspective on pa...

Unfortunately, a couple of weeks ago, the U.S. Supreme Court overturned Roe v Wade in a devastating rollback of rights. So for the 91st episode of Private Parts Unknown, we are countering a common misconception that people who are already moms don't get abortions or aren't pro-abortion. But that's not true: According to 2019 CDC statistics, 60% of people who get abortions are already mothers. So today, host Courtney Kocak speaks with reporter, abortion activist, AND mom Robin Marty, in addition ...

In a very grim turn of events, Roe v. Wade was overturned by SCOTUS last week. For the 90th episode of Private Parts Unknown, we're going to hold space for that grieving process — and also hear directly from the people litigating the case and an organization at the forefront of the pro-choice movement about what this means, how we got here, and what's to come. Host Courtney Kocak gives her reaction to Friday news and shares her personal experience with abortion. Then we talk through the biggest ...

For the 89th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak introduces you to her OTHER podcast, The Bleeders, a new show about book writing and publishing. BUT DON'T WORRY, today's episode still manages to be very queer! The first guest for The Bleeders was the second ever guest for Private Parts Unknown — Samantha Allen, author of Real Queer America: LGBT Stories From Red States and the upcoming novel Patricia Wants to Cuddle (pub date June 28th). She shares so many nuggets of wisdom...

For the 88th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dr. Amir Marashi, aka "The Vagina Whisperer" (@nycgyno on Instagram), for a fun and informative episode that spans from orgasms to endometriosis and Freud to Fear of Flying. We also discuss misconceptions about the clitoris and how that even affects doctors, different treatment options for post-menopausal women and others who need a boost (including Cliovana and "the love treatment"), his natural lube recommendation from...

For the 87th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts, Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra, welcome Nova Scotia-based married couple and co-hosts of the Turn Me On podcast — Jeremie Saunders and Bryde MacLean — for a fascinating episode about their journey opening up their relationship and becoming polyamorous. We dig into how living with a life-shortening illness has impacted their trajectory, how they forged the relationship dynamic they truly wanted without having a model, relationship...

For the 86th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra revisit one of our most popular episodes: a deep dive into why women cheat. First, we speak to an Ashley Madison member going by the alias of “Nikki,” then Ashley Madison’s Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable, and finally, their Communications Director, Isabella Mise, who co-authored "The Good Wife Study" on female infidelity. You're gonna want to check your presumptions at the door for this one! ...

For the 85th episode of Private Parts Unknown, hosts Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra welcome author Chloe Caldwell for a deep dive into her latest book, The Red Zone, about her experience with PMDD and how that impacted her relationships. The Red...

For the 84th episode of Private Parts Unknown, hosts Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra welcome Original Boner Gel founder Manuel Deran to bust some Dick Myths! Sofiya is the host, and Courtney and Manuel go head to head to see who’s more of a...

For the 83rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, hosts Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra welcome sex educator extraordinaire Samia Burton to take us to school with Dicking Riding 101 and Intro to Squirting. Samia gives tips for getting out of a sex...

For the 82nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, hosts Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra welcome actor, writer, and advocate Emmy Olea to discuss her new podcast, Crumbs. Emmy shares how her childhood — having teenage parents who struggled with...

For the 81st episode of Private Parts Unknown, hosts Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra welcome Ghanaian feminist writer and blogger Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah to discuss her new book: The Sex Lives of African Women. She also co-founded the award-winning...

For the 80th episode of Private Parts Unknown, hosts Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra are joined by Ukrainian journalist and radio host turned civilian soldier Yuriy Matsarsky (Юрій Мацарський), currently fighting in a Territorial...

For the 79th episode of Private Parts Unknown, sex and art collide as hosts Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra highlight a tremendous unsung hero: the dick artist. Specifically, Anjani Siddhartha, a designer for Doc Johnson and the artist behind many...

For the 78th episode of Private Parts Unknown, hosts Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra are sending a love letter to Sofiya’s homeland: Ukraine — more specifically Odessa, the pearl of the Black Sea.  Sofiya grew up in Odessa, Ukraine,...